An engagement is a momentous occasion. It marks the beginning of a journey towards lifelong commitment and love between you and your partner. It is something that deserves to be celebrated! But maybe you’re new to this kind of thing… you want a party but you’re just not really sure what to do. In this blog post, we’ll explore what happens at an engagement party: What do you need to do?  How do you plan an engagement party? Will you get any presents?

Then we’ll throw in a free party planning checklist to make it really easy. So let’s start by answering those questions.

Should you have an engagement party?

Yes, go for it!

Engagement parties are a great way to celebrate and commemorate the start of an upcoming union. Not only is it a great excuse for your friends and family to come together, but you get to share your big moment with everyone who’s there to celebrate YOU as a couple. Just don’t think it has to be some fancy extravagant affair if that’s not your thing. Just do it the way you want to do it.

When should you have an engagement party?

The timing of an engagement party can vary depending on personal preferences and circumstances but ideally, the engagement party should be scheduled from a few weeks to three months after the proposal. This ensures that the event is close enough that everyone is still excited but far away enough from the wedding you still need to plan.

Who throws the engagement party?

Can you throw your own engagement party?

Traditionally, the engagement party is hosted by the parents of the bride-to-be but if you don’t care, then I don’t care. It’s becoming more and more common for the couple themselves to host their own engagement party. Engagement parties are home are absolutely a great option to save money and keep the whole thing from getting too overwhelming.

Do you do toasts at engagement parties?

It’s up to you. If you choose to do toasts at your engagement party, the parents of the engaged couple usually start the toasting. Friends and close relatives then follow suit, sharing anecdotes, words of wisdom, and funny stories. The couple might then like to share how they met or how the proposal took place before thanking everybody for coming. 

Do you bring a gift to an engagement party?

Gifts aren’t mandatory but usually you’ll get some lovely photo frames or kitchenware or “house things” because people want to contribute to your new life together. If you don’t want the gifts, make sure to let people know on the invitation.

Can you have games at an engagement party?

Games can be a great way to break the ice and bring your guests together. Common games at engagement parties include “How Well Do You Know the Couple?” where guests answer questions about the engaged pair or “He Said, She Said,” where attendees guess who said certain quotes.

You don’t have to do it if you don’t want to but games can certainly help create a lively atmosphere and encourage interactions among guests. However it totally depends on the couple and what kind of engagement party you guys want.

What do people wear to an engagement party?

If you’re the future bride or groom, you set the tone. What guests wear to an engagement party will depend on the type of event being hosted, so be sure you make it clear.

For a formal engagement party, guests should be informed to dress in cocktail or evening attire, such as dresses and suits. If the celebration is casual, suggest that guests come in smart-casual outfits, like sundresses or dressy jeans with blouses or button-down shirts. For themed parties, be specific about the dress code to ensure everyone feels comfortable and fits the event’s vibe. Whatever your plan is, clear instructions on the invitation help set the tone for the party and ensure guests know what to expect.

Planning an engagement party checklist

1. Choosing the right theme for an engagement party

This is an important decision that can help set the tone and atmosphere of the event. It helps to determine what decorations, activities, food, and drinks will be present at your gathering. There are a variety of different themes you can choose from such as vintage, tropical, romantic, or modern.

Each option offers something distinctive and unique to make your celebration more memorable. Selecting a theme also makes it easier to plan out what décor, music, and activities will work best with your chosen style. Just make sure it suits your personalities so you can be comfortable at your own party. You want to create an ambience that reflects your dreams and desires for the big day!

2. Choosing the right kind of invitation for your engagement party

When it comes to sending invitations for an engagement party, it ultimately depends on the type of party you’re hosting. If you’re planning a more formal affair, such as a dinner party, then you might want to send out traditional paper invites.

On the other hand, if you’re hosting a more casual gathering, such as a backyard BBQ or casual drinks, then it may be more your style to send out digital invitations. Just search “Invitations” in your app store and you’ll have something whipped up in under an hour. If you’re still too lazy for that, make a Facebook event or send out text messages. It doesn’t need to be a big deal in this day and age.

3. Engagement party decorations

Creating unique decorations for an engagement party can be make it really special and memorable. Pick a colour scheme of the party and incorporate it into your decorations. Think about using streamers, balloons, banners, and tablecloths in coordinating colours. Its just a small touch that elevates the party a little.

If you are able to, try to personalise the decorations as much as possible with your names or some lovely messages. Another fun idea is to hang pictures of the couple at various points around the room. 

4. Food options for an engagement party

Catering is often the go-to choice for engagement parties as it provides convenience and ease for both the host and guests but maybe you’d like a more budget-friendly option.

There’s buffet-style so guests can choose or you can just do finger foods (as long as there’s enough that your guests won’t starve). Lastly, a potluck is a great way to involve friends and family in the celebration by having each person bring their favourite dish or specialty. 

5. Engagement Party Game Ideas

1. Love Story Trivia 

Prepare a list of questions about the couple’s relationship journey, from their first date to the proposal. Guests can form teams and compete to see who knows the most about the lovebirds. 

2. Ring Hunt

Create a scavenger hunt around the venue, leading guests to find hidden rings or ring-related items. The team that successfully finds all the items within a time limit wins.

3. Wedding Mad Libs

Design custom wedding-themed Mad Libs where guests can fill in the blanks with funny adjectives, nouns, and verbs. Later in the evening, the couple can read the completed Mad Libs aloud.

4. Guess the Love Song

Compile a playlist of romantic songs that are meaningful to the couple. Play short snippets of each song, and guests can guess the title or artist. It’s a sweet way to celebrate the couple’s favorite tunes while enjoying a musical challenge.

5. Karaoke

Set up a karaoke station and encourage guests to sing duets or serenade the engaged couple with love songs.

6. Wedding Pictionary

Divide guests into teams, and provide each team with a list of wedding-related words or phrases to draw. The teams take turns illustrating the words on a whiteboard or paper, and the other teams must guess what they’re drawing. 

7. Marriage Advice Cards

Prepare cards or small pieces of paper and ask guests to write down their best marriage advice or well wishes for the couple. The couple can read these cards after the party and keep them forever.

Remember, the key to successful engagement party games is to keep them light-hearted, inclusive, and reflective of the couple’s personalities. 

Planning an engagement party doesn’t have to be stressful. By following the tips outlined in this blog post and downloading our free party planning checklist, you can easily plan a beautiful and memorable celebration that your friends and family will talk about for years to come.